FAMILY
This is the part where I
get to say what I believe the role of the family unit is. i will also touch on
issues such as marriage (and its definition), divorce and whatever else i want
to cover. The definitions of what a family are may have changed over time from
the “golden age” nuclear family to the mixed family and single parent households
of today. In the “golden age” or Leave It to Beaver form, there was a
father, a stay at home mother, two kids and a dog living in the suburbs in a
house with a white picket fence. That would probably be seen as quaint by
today’s warped standards.
So what do I see the role
of family? i am going to go primarily with the family angle. The goal is to
create a loving environment where the parents can impart a moral and ethical
code for children. The parents can have a good home even without marriage.
There does not necessarily have to be a genetic connection to be a family. The
parents should teach kids have to behave ethically in situation and try to
promote the development of the child. Basically, teach the child what in life
they view as important.
There is also the first
exposure that the child will have to economics. How do they impart the
knowledge that the toys the kid has flashed in front of their eyes are wants and
not needs? I guess the concept of chores and allowances (hopefully tied to each
other, to explain a monetary connection between effort/labor and reward/money)
is an important step.
Family should aim to create
a stable and safe environment for the kid to grow up (and live vicariously
through them if you are so inclined). However, the family should recognize that
as the child grows up there will be clashes with parents. The parents should
not belittle the kid’s views if they disagree with them, but ask them to explain
why (to improve critical thinking ability). So, a parent is a: teacher, and
employer, a caretaker, a source of transportation, a religious leader, a role
model (it is really important to remember that) and many other things to the
child.
Marriage – Definitions and stuff
So what constitutes marriage and what legal role
should it play and who should be allowed to marry? From the government
standpoint, marriage deals mainly with reproduction (whether or not the
definition should be more broad is open to debate). This should be decided at
the state level by the people with no federal (or court) level intervention.
Many of the social debates relating to marriage and its definitions are based
off of marriage as a legal partnership (as opposed to the legislated
reproductive angle).
Marriage as a partnership is strange concept. On one hand
it makes sense, as the formation of the foundation of the family deals with the
connection between two people (more if you want to define it that way) both
personally and economically. Personally, I do not believe that the government
should be dealing with what a marriage is, as it is largely a societal construct
(steeped in religious traditionalism). I do not believe that a marriage is
something that should be recognized officially as a legal construct. Marriage
is definitely not a right. Different cultures have different views on what is
appropriate in the marriage construct, with cultural and other valid reasons why
a marriage should be defined as such in that context.